1. Do what you truly want
A lot of people to make decisions and live their lives in order to impress other people and avoid being disliked. But I got a newsflash for you, if you constantly avoid being disliked all the time, you will never truly be liked due to lack of confidence.
People will just look at you as neutral. Someone who flies under the radar, someone who isn’t memorable, is forgettable even. So not only is living your life based on what other people think of you emotionally and mentally toxic, but it’s also not practical in the real world.
Think of the most popular famous people in our culture, Donald Trump, Dave Chappelle, Logan Paul, Jake Paul, whether you think they’re dumb or douchebags, they have huge amounts of support from large audiences of people.
Sometimes, in order to be strongly loved by a certain audience, you have to be strongly hated by another. The fact that they’re so polarizing is what makes people instantly love them or instantly hate them.
This is why you shouldn’t be afraid to be who you are, and do the things you want. When you act true to yourself it will attract people in your life who appreciate you for you and it will repel people who you would’ve never gotten along with anyways.
At the end of the day, you can do everything in your power to make people like you, but someone could still just randomly decide “you know what, I just don’t like this guy” and you end up right back to square. So you might as well do whatever you want in the first place.
Now, this obviously doesn’t mean that you should go out of your way to be mean to other people or use this as justification for being a loser. The thing that especially blows my mind is how people are so worried about being disliked or judged by random people on the street who you’ll never see again.
Why do you care what random old guy on the street thinks of you? Don’t let others dictate your day. It’s your day, so do what you want with it.
2. Stop scrolling on social media
You hear this all the time but what does this have to do with your confidence? If you spend your day mindlessly scrolling on social media without a specific purpose then you’re subconsciously telling yourself that your time isn’t valuable and that in turn,
You aren’t valuable because you spend so much time giving it up staring at your screen seeing what other people are doing with their lives How confident can a person be if they spend hours every single day, watching other people live their life instead of going out and living it for themselves.
Not to mention that it’s almost impossible to not compare yourself to other people and what they’re doing when you see it on social media.
This comparison is also ridiculous because you’re comparing yourself to someone who’s purporting a fake image of themselves. Unless somebody has a live feed of themselves on camera all day every day, you never truly know what somebody’s life is like or what’s going on in their head, so you’re just comparing yourself based on what they put out.
Yeah, hate to break it to you, those Instagram models you stalk all day fart and wipe their ass too, they’re not perfect either. So stop treating other people better than yourself and stop giving them more time in your day than you do to yourself! Have some damn pride.
3. Develop a self-care routine
You can try to mentally toughen yourself up to not care about what people think and walk around smelling like shit and looking like shit but then you have to smell yourself and look at yourself.
And oh my god, some of you I can smell from all the way up here in Mt. Olympus. Listen here bro, it’s in your best interest to take care of yourself and the added bonus is that it will make you feel better and more confident too since you won’t be trying to cover up or compensate for a shitty physical appearance.
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4. Start doing
A lot of people always say they want to do something but they never end up doing it or following through. Or the worst is when they just talk about it forever before they actually start.
Here’s a tip, who’s been around since the beginning: Just shut up about it and start. How can you feel confident in yourself if all you ever do is talk about the things you want to do instead of just going out and doing them? Confidence doesn’t come from words or thoughts. No matter how hard you try.
Confidence in yourself and your abilities can only come from massive amounts of action taking in your life. With no action, you have no reference experience to back up what you say or what you do, and your mind isn’t stupid. It can’t just trick itself into being confident if it has nothing to base it off of.
This is why people who are arrogant, are actually just acting out of insecurity because deep-down their arrogance and inflated sense of themselves comes from a lack of experience and action in their life to make them feel confident.
Once you go out and start doing, your words will start matching your actions and this will create rock-hard confidence. If your words don’t match your actions, then they’re just words. Nothing more. They have no meaning. You have to go out there and live it. That’s where confidence comes from.
A belief in yourself that’s established from previous experience. So go out and start doing what you say. Bonus tip: Create an action log. Anytime you say or think you want to do something, write it down and give it a deadline.
These are some basic tips that we always ignore in our life. By following these simple tips we can easily transform our life no matter how tough it is. We should always implement ourselves in action rather than words. These tips are enough to increase our confidence level if we simply implement it.